how to achieve nothing

3 Step Formula to Quit the Race Against Time, Planning and Productivity Mania & Find The Unexpected Effortlessly.

(For the Purpose Driven Exhausted Seeker)

 Why I am writing this book?

 

I travelled the word and was a dedicated full time seeker for two decades. I read over 2000 spiritual, psychology, science and self-help books and the more I read the more selective I became. After a while all popular ideas seemed like child’s superstition. And then I read a book that blew my mind. It was the national bestseller Busting Loose from The Money Game written by my dear coach Robert Sheinfeld. 

This was time when I was spending full time in improving myself. I took all seminars available, workshops, read books, finished my Masters in psychology and consciousness studies, did meditation and worked on communication and public speaking. I moved to central America and did bunch of medicinal shamanic ceremonies and cleanses. But something was holding me back. The more I was trying to improve myself, ascend and find this permanent love and wealth, the more helpless and stuck I felt. I didn’t have home, I didn’t have anywhere to be and I was looking for love. I had my business online but I was longing for belonging and stability. I exhausted all means of help. Then everything changed in 2017 at a retreat in Costa Rica.

I participated in an Iboga ceremony using an African psychoactive medicine. I was lying paralyzed in the dark for 14 hours and didn’t sleep for 5 days after. My journey began by a sudden death under a knife of a man who just appeared from nowhere. The ‘I’ have disappeared and what was now seen appeared like a movie screen flying around and looking at life. There was my higher self, people cut in half, futuristic towns or me as a child in visions that were unrecognizably real from seeing my hands typing this.

But all the fancy visions and insights were nothing compared to one; I was shown that the timeline in my mind that I believed was ‘my life’- memories, thoughts and future hopes – was strategically deceptive. It left me in absolute flabbergastation for days. Stories are not real, they never happened, they only appear to happen on a mind screen NOW when I think about them.
This was only the beginning of my journey to question everything what I believed was the obvious truths. I went to study with guides who saw through the trickery of the time-bound self image.

I questioned the stories of the person I perceived as true, everything I believed to be bad or leading to bad outcomes in the future. I retrieved
into a jungle house in Costa Rica alone only with my dog, and spent hours every day deeply looking into painful stories, and discovering so much freedom and love it brings me to tears now when I’m writing about it. I guided others who had been on the journey for a while also, and their emotional pain and symptoms of trauma would not only disappear.. they found a world so unexpected because it’s completely hidden from the person living in time. I guided therapists, content creators, teachers and entrepreneurs losing the stories that kept them in the race, competition and compensation. I’ve noticed that their biggest complain was: There is not enough time and I’m not doing enough. Exhausted from constant striving, looking to fulfill their purpose, anxiety of not losing money, stress to keep up with competition, resigned with relationships after many hurts, and trying to be someones who matter in the unstable world..

A lightbulb went on. We are taught to heal ourselves, to manifest wealth and compete with each other. All the techniques out there are based on a false assumption. That there is something wrong with you because of what happened before Now. And there is a better future waiting for you, with a somehow better and improved you in it – You that will have more time to do the things you really want to do. Just not yet. And you have to first learn enough and work hard enough and be a good person, you have to know what to do and you must avoid making mistakes – to achieve what you truly want. It’s a trap.

I retreat again and write a book for all purpose driven exhausted seekers called How To Achieve Nothing: 3 Step Formula to Quit the Race Against Time, Planning and Productivity Mania & Find The Unexpected Effortlessly.

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Trying to Be in the Moment is a Dangerous Idea..

Crazy is the prize you pay for having an imagination.
~Ruth Ozeki

Many well meaning popular mindfulness teachers will sell you the idea of living in the moment. If you buy it, guilt is inescapable.

When I was living in London, I completed a mindfulness instructor training with a respected teacher. This was already after 10 year of nearly daily meditation practices. After that I thought ‘am I the only one in the class who didn’t get it?’ I mean, I did have some mindful moments and noticed sensations in my body I didn’t know existed. I thought I was more present. And I thought I could keep it up. I just couldn’t maintain it when boyfriend didn’t text or when I was running out of money. I ditched being in the moment when shit hit the fan.  The idea of living in the now moment always sounded to me like a careless hippy wish that brings anxiety later from ignoring responsibilities. It sounds like being in the moment advocates things like sex without protection.

But since I had my certification, now I had to behave more mindful and teach others to also be more in the moment. I bought some white clothes and burned an incense to at least get approval from my housemates. It’s expected. If we are conscious people we are supposed to be in the present moment. It’s a popular idea based on assumptions made of mush. Most of the time, we find ourselves in our heads, and we feel so guilty; How come we can’t be more in the now moment? Right now? We feel something is wrong with us. We meditate and it seems to be helping. Only until a customer writes a bad reviewer. Or the doctor brings you the news. Or our business plummets suddenly.
We don’t question the obvious. What is NOW? Is it a moment in time?

NOW is not a moment in TIME. Now is a moment without time.

Now is when you don’t think about time

Now is being with What is in the absence of assumptions and hopes

 

The deceptive timeline made of expectations and hopes is not part of reality. It is not part of what happens in actuality. It’s imagination, made of images and voices commenting on everything.  

They say time flies when you have fun. It doesn’t. It doesn’t pass. There is no time unless you think about it. When you don’t think about it, no time passes. The more you think about it, the more you feel the contraction in your body, the sense of ‘not enough time’. When you play, or enjoy what it is that you do, no time passes. Then you remember you should be back home or at work or whatever – the memory appears as an image or thought. And it comes with a story. The story is what you should be doing instead. It is a story about the past and it appears Now.

Just like in sleep, you don’t experience 8 hours. You experience no time had passed when you wake up, until you think about it.

Now is not a moment in time. It is not this second or mili-hair-second. Now is what happens. What is real, as opposed to what is assumed, imagined. All stress and emotions come from this confusion, and I will come to this many times in the following pages, so don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense just yet.

Without time, You are Free

Without hope, you are free, nothing is required and you don’t need to know. Things happen, change on their own accord, appear as anything. there is nothing to hold on to. I worked with many overstressed and overworked individuals and time wasn’t a real problem for any, despite of their convincing stories. Time is never the problem. Just like the promise of a better future is not the solution.

What we really want, our deepest longing is to stop Striving. We don’t need to know and noting is required.

There is nothing to achieve in the future because future only exists when we think about it Now.

Reading happens, ideas appear in the right time and not a second too early or too late, email gets answered, conversation happens, new deal is recognized, support appears out of nowhere.

Nothing is required.

Except of what a thought tells us about it.

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We don’t want more time. We want less time..

We believe we live in time, and being timeless is some ideological idea or quantum theory. But what if we are mistaken? What If it was the other way round? What if living in time was a myth?

The more time we perceive we have, the more we ‘beat around the bush’. So is it really more time we want?

We imagine more time would give us more time to do what we want to do.

That’s what most people imagine, that’s the dream.

What if more time brought your more of the same old stuff? More overthinking, more indecision, more compensation and more beating around the bush?

Would you still want it?

What we deeply long for is less time.

What can be less time than being timeless?  

 

Timeless is when you don’t  think about time. In practicality, it’s when you don’t look at time and when you don’t have thoughts about time.  There is a difference when we check the time when we have an appointment or waiting for a train right now. But often, we look at time, and immediately we feel the stressful contraction in our body that comes with a thought: Oh no! I’m totally behind. Or ‘I still haven’t finished the paper’. Or ‘Oh shit! I haven’t even started!’. And it has nothing to do what is actually happening in your immediate personal space, it has everything to do with the story.

Every day, we’re dealing with a concept that goes against our actual experience. Because we don’t know what time is. We assume we do but that’s only an assumption mistaken for actuality. We think we do but the idea we have about time is just a thought. A belief. We mistake time for a lifeless digit on a screen. A symbol. in reality, it’s impossible to experience time. Once you see  this – it simply changes everything.

Let’s have a look at the greatest myth of all time: Time itself. How we perceive time and what we find when we really look.

We believe we live in time, and being timeless is some ideological idea or quantum theory. But what if we are mistaken? What If it was the other way round? What if living in time was a myth?

The more time we perceive we have, the more we ‘beat around the bush’. So is it really more time we want?

We imagine more time would give us more time to do what we want to do.

That’s what most people imagine, that’s the dream.

What if more time brought your more of the same old stuff? More overthinking, more indecision, more compensation and more beating around the bush?

Would you still want it?

What we deeply long for is less time.

What can be less time than being timeless?  

 

Timeless is when you don’t  think about time. In practicality, it’s when you don’t look at time and when you don’t have thoughts about time.  There is a difference when we check the time when we have an appointment or waiting for a train right now. But often, we look at time, and immediately we feel the stressful contraction in our body that comes with a thought: Oh no! I’m totally behind. Or ‘I still haven’t finished the paper’. Or ‘Oh shit! I haven’t even started!’. And it has nothing to do what is actually happening in your immediate personal space, it has everything to do with the story.

Every day, we’re dealing with a concept that goes against our actual experience. Because we don’t know what time is. We assume we do but that’s only an assumption mistaken for actuality. We think we do but the idea we have about time is just a thought. A belief. We mistake time for a lifeless digit on a screen. A symbol. in reality, it’s impossible to experience time. Once you see  this – it simply changes everything.

Let’s have a look at the greatest myth of all time: Time itself. How we perceive time and what we find when we really look.

Time, Can you be really sure it exists?

How would you know?  Could it be that time exists in a different

way than we imagine it?

Here is how people in most cultures imagine time. It is how we think what time is. We imagine the Now to be an ever fleeting moment sandwiched between the infinite past and infinite future. We imagine the past and the future on the same line with the NOW, and in comparison, the now is incomparably tiny and insignificant. No wonder we postpone everything into the future; it seems there is more space there. The Now seems like a thin hair so we may as well skip it. Let’s just get things done with in the Now, and leave all the goodies for the future, where our future selves will be somehow improved and will enjoy some improved situation with the promise of more time.

Discover that you can’t experience time

Let’s do a little experiment. I want you to step outside of the Now and go into the past. And I don’t ask you to think about it or imagine that you are in the past. For example, go back to checking your email in the morning or yesterday. 
You see, it’s not possible. If you want to go to the past, you have to go into your mind, into the imagination. It’s called imagination because it’s made out of images. As we discovered previously, everything that appears on the mind screen is a belief. A story. An assumption.

Notice that time is actually never experienced in reality. It’s only a thought. An image. What is the ‘past’ in actual experience?

You can’t manage time. It is an illusion.

We imagine time in pictures that appear when we think or look at a number we call time.  6pm – angry boss as the deadline will be missed. We are not referring to time but to the image. Nobody ever got anxious by looking at a number.

We can’t experience time, except of in our thinking

 

You can’t separate past and future from NOW

When you think about the future, when does it really happen? It happens now, in your imagination. When you think about the past, when does it happen? It happens now, in your imagination. You may call it memory. It’s made of images and voices that are not part of reality, this physicality. I’m not saying what is imagined is not invalid or should be ignored, it affects the person and it causes our bodies to react and feel.  Often, we don’t even know what we are thinking, we just feel the contraction in our bodies or heart pumping faster,  preparing us to race more, to think more, to do more.

You can’t separate any opposites as they are arising together as ONE. In reality, you cannot separating anything. You can’t have one side of a coin without the other side. Past is the opposite of future. Now has not opposite. In NOW, past and future are not separated. When they appear, they appear NOW.

It only APPEARS that past and future happen not now. That’s the dream. It’s only a belief.

I’m not going to hang you in ‘time is not real, ignore your deadlines’. The message in the book is about reclaiming the Presents that are lost to the person living in time.

You will discover that:

time is essentially a Hope for a better future

you are not only the person reading these words but the Eternal Free Complete Being experiencing through the person living in time

getting things done is a way we manage our hidden anxiety and what is the alternative  you can jump out of the time race, and it’s quite simple

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The illusion of loss of time

 

There is a mythical time warp that eats time.  Those who find themselves in it become broke, bankrupt, overworked, stagnant, underutilized, underpaid or underappreciated. The time warp is full of good and well meaning people. In reality, you can never lose time or gain more time, speed things up or waste your time. It is not possible. It only appears so through thinking about it.

There is an ingenious system that crates the illusion of loss of time.

And it has nothing to do with having too much to do. And you can’t get away by slowing down. Or being more mindful. Managing your time or doing spiritual practices. Even though it can appear that your efforts yield some results.  And it has everything to do with keeping the false character living in the deceptive timeline alive.

The person living in time is terrified because she is aware of eventual expiration – death. So she has an agenda, she has a plan that keeps her hoping. That hope is a story of a better future. The plan is to survive; to live beyond this life Now and today. To trade this life as it is for a life that should be somehow improved in the future.   To be a good person, to become someone who matters, a hero.

And to cope with the underlying anxiety while she is alive, she needs to boost her self esteem. It serves as a protective shield. You can think of this protection as putting on a sunscreen that promises you safety from cancer, yet the sunscreen itself contains cancerous properties.

It’s the genesis of time. Believing that what you really want is in the future, not here. So you feel pumped and create some results but it is never fulfilling, never enough.

Because we want the perpetuate success. Perpetuate likes. The perpetuate bliss. The enlightenment. The money forever without ever fearing of losing it.

Stress happens when we believe that our status of being seen as a good person is in jeopardy.

Most people imagine that manipulation is some sort of amoral act only sleazy psychopathic marketeers do. We have no idea how could we, the good people engage in controlling and manipulating. We just feel the loss of time, the contracted sense that life is slipping away and we have a pile of things to do before we can start really living. What does manipulation really mean?

We manipulate when we modify our action in time.

When we are focused on modifying what is, and changing our idea to fit it into our model of imagined reality, the idea becomes an ideal; a fantasy away from what is, and rather what should be.

Pleasing others does not come out of kindness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing them and receiving their disapproval. The person will never feel good enough permanently.  Behind each overwhelm, stress, overthinking, competing, hustling, or doubting, is a story. Behind perpetual stress is a perpetual story that is not true. Losing stress has everything to do with losing the stories keeping the false image alive.  It is about relaxed leadership.
Effortless.

 

 

 

 

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