Love
Guidance for Sensitive, introspective and Bright Empaths. Relinquish underlying stories that keep you single and overthinking, resigned or in painful relationships. Be seen, be heard and have trusting relationship without manipulation and trying so hard.
oldlWhen we are hungry for love, connection and intimacy, we eat anything! We settle for anything and so immediately devalue ourselves. We jump into a relationship with a fantasy. We forget what it is that we truly desire. We give and give and fail to notice that our investment in the relationship is not reciprocated by the other. We feel angry, hurt and we pretend we’ve got out shit together, which is, of course another technique get the other to give us what we want. But it ain’t coming..
Then we waste our best years in compensation. We lose other relationships, money, and it costs us so much energy, health and sanity.
Because I’m a highly sensitive empath, I do tend to date men who seem to be on the narcissistic end. I used to watch so many youtube videos about narcissism and it had me furious and feeling totally screwed. All the traits they talked about including gaslighting, flirting and lack of empathy was exactly what I was finding. But here is a thing: the more I knew about narcissism, the more enraged and helpless I felt. Surely, coming from an abusive childhood with unavailable parents, I must be doomed.
When we constantly think about our partners and how wrong they are, there is nobody here for us. We lose all power. We complain how emotionally unavailable and uncommitted they are and don’t see how emotionally unavailable and uncommitted we are to ourselves.
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Most people tell me they don’t need support in creating loving, trusting and lasting relationships. They are fine. It’s their partner who has the problem. We don’t see how we teach others to treat us by giving them too much or too early.
When we lose the stories that keep us in reactivity, we think clearly and drama or boredom vanish. Suddenly, people respond to us completely different. It takes two people to create a dynamic in a relationship but only one to undo it. Be it you.
Are you after a painful breakup, single or looking? Don’t rush into your next relationship!
I can help you to lose the old stories, get clear on what you want, clear the past, and become a highly valued partner by getting your shit together first. When you don’t turn your hidden expectations into powerful agreements, you lose power and desirability. Don’t wait until you are in a relationship again. Now is the best time to create unshakeable foundations. Only then you will recognize your soul mate and create a trusting and supportive relationship from a space of value.
My guidance is for those who want truly loving, trusting and supportive relationships with themselves and others, and wont’ settle for anything else anymore.
Some stories my clients often mistake for truth:
He/she doesn’t care about me
I need to know what to do
It is possible to hurt someone (so I stay small and silent)
Relationships will make me happy
Life is difficult
People reject me and judge me
They need my help
I’m too fat, too ugly or too old
I shouldn’t be so sensitive or emotional
I will always be alone
There is no way out
I am not good enough
There is something wrong with me
I need their love
